Are you ready for a new look at the world of sexuality and kink? This podcast, brought to you by Dr. K, Holistic Sexuality Educator, fitness trainer, model, and promoter of erotic intelligence, is an honest and down to Earth deep dive into the world of sex, BDSM, and alternative lifestyle. Dr. K. is a 24/7 submissive, deeply devoted to tantric practices, the power of embodiment, and holistic living, as well as an empowerment and intimacy coach.
Topics range from sex education, LGTBQ+, consensual non-monogamy, Tantra, kink, BDSM, taboos, fetishes, sex toys, advice, experiences, consent, Shibari, and so much more!
Let’s talk about Libido… in particular, how do we overcome libido discrepancy? (i.e.: when one partner wants more sex than the other.) While we are at it, let’s take it a step further and throw parenting, life, and a little kink into the mix! In this episode, I’m going to address an insightful question from a follower concerning how to talk to their partner about the tough subject of getting more sex when one partner isn’t feeling it. I also take you on a deep dive into a conflict resolution technique called “The Imago Dialogue” (and how it can be used as check-in method for D/s dynamics), how this fits in with creating more responsive desire, as well as teach you how to find what your inner self actually needs from sex. I’ll also give actionable steps to reframe what pleasure is, and build a container of safety that will help partners connect on a deeper level, even when sex isn’t on the menu! Let’s get going!
Links for this episode:
Dr. K’s Imago-Inspired D/s Relationship Dialogue Script will be available on Patreon and her Online Center for Sexuality & Kink Education
Book: Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagowski
Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Book: Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris
Book: Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz
Book: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Helen LaKelly Hunt (Great info on the Imago Dialogue)
Site: The Imago Relationship Official Site
Additional Resources:
Site: TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance)
Site: TASHRA’s Research
Site: The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality
Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover
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Twitch with me! LIVE
Digital Magazine – Intellectual Intoxication – Dr. K’s Gallery Musings & Gallery
Dr. K’s Kink-Affirming Holistic Coaching Practice
Additional Resources:
Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom)
About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health.
Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech
Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover
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This podcast, brought to you by Dr. K, Holistic Sexuality Educator, fitness trainer, model, and promoter of erotic intelligence, is an honest and down to Earth deep dive into the world of Sex, BDSM, and alternative lifestyle. Dr. K. is a 24/7 submissive, performer, erotica author, sexuality researcher and scholar.
Topics will range from sex education, non-monogamy, kink, BDSM, fetishes, kinky travels, sex toys, experiences, OnlyFans, SSC, Shibari, and so much more!
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