Hey there all! One of the questions I get asked the most is “How do I find a Mistress or Dom as a life partner?” and quite often, there is a misunderstanding of the differences between looking for a romantic life-partner who will share a D/s dynamic with you vs. a trained practitioner who works with you, mentors you, or engages in a more contractual D/s dynamic, but is not in a romantic relationship with you. Here, I’m going to cover some of the differences, and ways you can incorporate a subtle nod to your desired lifestyle or identity while in the dating scene.
Links for this episode:
Follow Dating Kinky on IG at https://www.instagram.com/datingkinkyofficial
Visit the blog articles on dating in kink and D/s on the NCSF Site
Kasidie (primarily swingers but many kinksters can be found here too and events are regularly updated for kink/play parties)
Swing Lifestyle (again, primarily swingers but many kinksters can be found here too)
Cosmopolitan released a list of kink/fetish/BDSM couples and dating aps located HERE that’s worth a look.
Resources:
Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom)
About SESTA/FOSTA: Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently creating issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health.
Reid’s Safer Sex Elevator Speech
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